Hey, sweet sister.
I hear those questions stirring within your soul.
Grief, anxiety, illness, depression, shame, divorce…
They can raise enough doubt and uncertainty that they completely unravel any semblance of life as you know it. Including your faith.
But you don’t have to hold those questions before the Lord alone.
Is God even listening?
Why didn’t He stop that from happening?
How am I supposed to move forward from this?
I am at such a loss.
I don’t have anyone to talk to about this…
A Safe + Sacred Space to Just… Be
It is my desire to sit with you in the places where you have questions. To hold a sacred space for you. To pray for you. To listen to God with you.
I do this through spiritual direction and soul care.
Simply put, spiritual direction is the practice of listening to God together. It’s about becoming more aware of His presence and movement in your world.
And sister, let me assure you that God is present and active in your life–even when you are hurting. I’d love to help you recognize His presence in your story.
Does this sound like you?
You consider yourself quiet.
Put yourself in a room with others and you’re probably the quietest one in the bunch. It’s not that you don’t have something to say. You’d rather listen and take the time to think about what words are worth speaking.
You process life through writing.
Journaling allows you to figure out what’s stirring inside of you. You may not have the words to speak out loud, but they come to you once you put pen to paper.
You value privacy and space.
Not everything is meant to be shared with everyone. Some things are sacred. Like what’s going on inside your heart and soul. You like time and space to think and reflect on your own–away from others.
That’s why face-to-face sessions don’t necessarily work for you. You need something designed for you.
Soul Care for the Quiet Gals
Have a hard time focusing on God when someone else is in the room?
Want time and space to prayerfully consider questions?
Express yourself better on paper than in person?
In my experience, I often didn’t have the words to share in person.
But I discovered that if I could write them out, the words found me instead.
That’s why I specialize in providing written spiritual direction.
It’s perfect for us more introverted gals who need time and space to process what’s going on inside of us.
What you get from written spiritual direction
>> Personal support.
Someone to compassionately and prayerfully walk with you through this season of grief, disappointment, or spiritual dryness.
>> Timely access.
Send questions, reflections, or insights when they’re weighing on your heart. No need to wait for a meeting.
>> Space to process.
You don’t have to come up with an answer on the spot. Take the time you need to pray and reflect before responding to a question.
>> Personalized resources.
Receive recommendations for tools and spiritual practices that help you stay close to Jesus.
>> Recorded journey.
Since our communication takes place via email, you have an automatic record of your faith journey.
“Written spiritual direction is validating, freeing, and very helpful. It also is a record. With face-to-face direction, you cannot go back and look at what has gone before. The paperwork is like a standing stone of what God has done and is doing.”
(Cindy, written spiritual direction client)
During our time together, you’ll gain:
>> The Space to Process + Grieve
You don’t have to hold it all together any more. Here, you’ll have the time and space to honor the pain and loss you have experienced, leaning upon Jesus for comfort and grace.
>> The Power to Name
No more murky feelings of uneasiness. Learn to name what is stirring in your heart and soul so you can bring it before God and surrender it to Him.
>> The Ability to Recognize
God is moving in your life. Learn to discover signs of His presence and know–beyond the shadow of a doubt–that He is there with you.
>> The Invitation to Respond
Is God calling you to rest? To forgive? To praise Him? Learn to identify (and receive) His personal invitations to you.
Is this the right step for you?
Consider your interest in finding a spiritual director an invitation for you to have a conversation with God first. 😉
As you prepare to take the next step, it’s good to reflect on why this seems like a good fit for you in this season of your life.
Here are some questions that can help you discern that.
Have I experienced some sort of grief or trauma, and desire to bring that hurt to God?
Am I having a hard time sensing God’s presence?
Do I have questions or doubts about God that I am ready to explore?
Am I facing some sort of life change?
What is my relationship with God like in this season?
Am I struggling with sin of some sort?
Do I desire the support and companionship of a trusted mentor?
What do I desire most in this season with God?
Your Next Step
Pick What Fits Best for You
Focused care and conversation around one main issue or question
Usually multiple emails per week
Explore soul care and spiritual practices, plus dig deeper into 2-3 areas
Usually average 1 email per week
Spiritual companionship and longer-term soul care and support
Usually an email every week or two
Spaces are limited to ensure I can generously serve each of my clients.
After registering for spiritual direction, you’ll be able to immediately download a guide about Creating Space to Hear from God. This will help you prepare for our time together. I’ll follow up within 1 business day to start spiritual direction.
“I’ve been pleasantly surprised by how gifted Kari is at creating a sacred and safe space even in the context of written communication. Kari provides a unique and rare spiritual companionship that’s hard to find in today’s busy world. I can always sense God’s presence and wisdom coming through in the insights she shares and questions she presents for my reflection.”
(Arris, written spiritual direction client)
Hi, I’m Kari.
I have found spiritual direction to be a great help to me in that I have someone to simply sit with me in the silence, to prayerfully listen to what was stirring in my heart, and not to have any specific agenda we were working toward.
We were just… together. In God’s presence. Seeking Him.
I felt supported. I felt noticed. I felt cared for. And I want to do the same for you.
Training & Certifications
- Certified Writing Guide, Write Your Self (a trauma-sensitive approach to writing)
- Certified Painted Prayers Instructor
- Walking Through the Narrow Gate spiritual formation program, Victory Noll Center
- Spiritual Direction with Children with Lacy Borgo, Companioning Center
- Creating Space for Kids to Encounter God with Melissa J. MacDonald
- Professional Coach Certification, International Coach Academy
Frequently Asked Questions
How does written spiritual direction work?
Simply put, it’s just a conversation on paper. We’ll use email to write back and forth. I’ll ask you some questions as we get started, and then we’ll follow the Holy Spirit’s leading from there.
What if I’m interested in spiritual direction, but I’m not sure what to write about?
You should take the Journal Gently program first. Journal Gently will give you a taste of written spiritual direction as we write back and forth, but you also receive content each week to guide your writing. It’s great for discerning if written spiritual direction is right for you!
How often do we write back and forth?
As we begin our correspondence, we’ll settle into a rhythm that is natural for us. While regular communication will be encouraged, you’ll have the time and space you need to process. Many women write once a week or once every two weeks.
What’s the difference between counseling, coaching, and spiritual direction?
Very generally speaking, counselors look into your wounded past to help you heal, coaches look toward the future and help you take action so you can live more fully, and spiritual directors focus on God and your relationship with Him. You might lean on one more than another in different seasons, but all can be incredibly helpful and have their own role to play.
Do you have any additional resources to help me learn more about spiritual direction?
Yep! I’ve compiled a group of podcast episodes that speak to spiritual direction, especially written spiritual direction.
You can also read this great post, The Beginner’s Guide to Spiritual Direction from Celia A. Miller. In it she provides an overview to spiritual direction and shares about her own experience working with a spiritual director.